Sometimes, we have not to say about us anything which is clearly different from what we would say about somebody else.
A natural attitude would be simply to point to those other people who are like us when we try to find ourselves.
For this, we should use only a finger. The finger would mark the end of our personality and the people to which it points would represent a self-discovery.
The fear of disappearing among those people makes us to replace such a simple gesture with inventions of some passions we would share with them.
The invented passions only hide us from ourselves. The same thing happens when we try to distinguish from other people making up contrary beliefs. We cannot find ourselves in those outrageous opinions we held just for being different from others. Sometimes, they tell that we are not different at all.