The social anxiety does not
necessarily come from someone’s unfit character for living inside the
community.
In fact, there are two more
important causes: the lack of skill in playing the game of social life and the
absence of the disposition of playing it.
It is a game because the social
life offers a span of possibilities and it never guarantees for the success of
their achievement. There is always presupposed an amount of risk and any
failure points to the fact that it does not exist a stable and reliable social
life, even if we grow up with such belief (Who would learn to speak if there
would not exist the firmest belief in a stable social life which expects this
skill from us?).
Against the disposition of
playing such game lays our own physical life. Our body continually exists with
no delay or risk of failure, excepting the risk of dying, which is rarely felt
in actual life.
If we strengthen our personality
as much as it is our physical existence (without dramatic changes or
deviations), then we are less glad for playing the game of social life.