vineri, 25 iulie 2014

Ridiculous goals

If the life miseries or failures are too many or too deep, the advice to get over them loses any meaning.

You cannot step over them by an act of willpower, because they dug holes into your mind.

Usually, the holes are simply filled with the ordinary things you do instead of the unfulfilled ideals.

Once the wholes are blocked up in this way, the effort of mind to raise itself to new ideals seems dangerous. The mind risks exposing to anybody else its new low composition, after it brought into it a lot of ordinary things.

(For example, a man who wishes for a perfect love or family after he failed in all his past and high personal goals)

Floating minds

The things and persons randomly float in a medium with no gravitational force. We should assume that the gravitation gives a direction to things and persons by simply ascribing to them places in the physical world.

For human beings, to be somewhere would mean to have a meaning of your existence in that place, where the meaning is identical with the direction which belongs to other things and animals.

Otherwise, the human mind floats randomly .

Many places cannot be classified as answers to the question ‘where are you?’ If we answer ‘at home’, but our dwelling place is lacked by any marks of civilization and we do not feel it as a benchmark of our existence, then it is not a proper answer, by only a way to say that we are not in any real place.

Second, ‘to be’ from the expression ‘to be somewhere’ is a vague formula, when it is not backed by many possible sentences using the verb ‘to have’. For instance, someone who has no food cannot be really an inhabitant of some definite place. She or he is mainly in the search for food, i.e. nowhere.

And the last aspect brings the idea that to be somewhere means also to have the idea that you will be there for a long time. It is an idea of our minds, not a property of the things from a particular place. The idea can be acquired through a certain amount of love for the things you have in a definite place, by which you oppose to their possible disappearance.

Briefly, a human mind floats when its owner lives in a disordered place, has a few goods, and does not love what he has.

Its floating is not soft or easy. Because the gravitation inserted in his mind through unavoidable desires for a proper place of dwelling, for material goods, and through different forms of loving things and persons puts the entire flying man down. Only a few can still claim that their minds float above, if they are put down in this way. Self-humiliation is the most popular reaction and it is a way of recognizing that the places of the world are greater than us.

joi, 24 iulie 2014

Complicated persons forcibly

Though the age continually adds many experiences to our personality, we cannot fully perceive ourselves as complicated persons. Our past childhood emotion for the simple characterizations by a single word – naughty, stupid, clever, pretty, ugly, fat, or thin – still remains. Afterwards, the teenager who looks to himself or herself in a mirror spends a lot of time waiting for such a short verdict about his or her sexual beauty. Many times, the new intellectual or behavioral acquisitions would be happily put away for a positive answer about their bodies.

The manner of talking or thinking about ourselves as if we would be complicated persons develops as a virtual excuse for the cases when we could receive a short negative qualification from other persons: „Maybe they see me as an ugly or stupid person, but I am in fact ...” (and we might add a lot of long stories about ourselves).

The adult who can instill to other persons a positive sexual characterization may rest himself from the troublesome effort of creating complicated views of his self.

Otherwise, he becomes satisfied with social approvals: clever, successful, rich, and so on. Though, they are words which cannot be transformed in real facts as the sexual attraction through sexual contacts.

Therefore, we mostly live with the fear of being simple and thus shortly characterized. It is a fear which never ends and we never cease to be authors of complicated stories about us. Death itself shows that we will become as simple as possible in the form of a skeleton or ashes (the Christian believers in the afterlife cannot avoid that fear, since their God will give short characterizations in the Judgment Day).

miercuri, 16 iulie 2014

Deceiving shapes

The general preference for the shapes of the body in the case of the sexual attraction of a male to a female seems to conceal the desire to keep some independence even in the state of being attracted by somebody else.

For the shapes represent the body as one among others.  Though they belong to a particular body, they seem to have a special life among the other bodies to which they are compared to. And a body chosen for its good shapes still stays far from that man who is attracted to. Also, he keeps some distance from the person of the woman who is that body. This seems to be the explanation of the manner of talking about woman’s sexual organs as if they would be different from her.

Differently, what comes out of a female body as its bodily hair, smell, or sweat certifies woman’s individuality. The hair, sweat, and smell send to the body and the person from which they came out. The attracted man who pays attention to them can know that attraction means to be sunk or caught into another body. In this case, the play of copulating different women is not exactly a living or enjoyable experience. When someone feels repeatedly that he can be caught by other persons, he encounters many proofs of the weakness of human personality.